7 signs someone just isn’t a good friend, no matter your history [Video]

Friendships — especially the close, long-term kind — can be privy to ups and downs. But sometimes, a rough patch (or several) can mean more than a temporary blip in the relationship, according to clinical psychologist Dr. Miriam Kirmayer.

Kirmayer said that your friendships are closely tied to your personal growth as well as your overall health and even professional success. Not feeling connected, understood, or even safe around a friend you see all the time can have detrimental effects on your life.

But being honest about how a friend makes you feel is easier said than done. “Generally, this is one of those questions that we don’t take the time to ask ourselves,” Kirmayer said, even though the answer is usually “very telling.”

She shared some signs a friend is just not treating you right, even if you have a long history or empathize with them.